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    Wisconsin Lawyer
    July 01, 2002

    Letters to the Editor

    Steve Seim; Craig Pech; Joseph Welcenbach

    Wisconsin Lawyer
    Vol. 75, No. 7, July 2002

    Letters

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    Amicable divorce is still traumatic for children

    In "Collaborative Divorce is a Proven, Ethical Solution" (May 2002), the authors state: "Research has shown that it is not the divorce itself that is the most destructive element for families, but rather the effects of conflict that often occur as a result of the traditional adversarial divorce process." While collaborative divorce may eliminate some of the stresses involved in divorce for spouses (and attorneys), the suggestion that it will make divorce easier on children is flat wrong.

    In her groundbreaking book, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, child psychologist Judith Wallerstein refutes the comforting myth that an amicable divorce protects the children involved from significant psychological and emotional harm. As her 25-year study demonstrated, the brute facts of divorce, from a child's perspective, are parental separation and family dissolution. It is this basic reality that is so painful for most children of divorce. By contrast, most children of divorce are largely unaware of the legal processes involved.

    Collaborative divorce may make divorce easier on the parties in the courtroom, but parents and attorneys should not fool themselves into believing that it will make divorce easier on children. The best available research has shown that divorce is an inherently traumatic experience for children, and that trauma has nothing to do with the legal aspects of divorce.

    Steve Seim
    Juneau

    Disclosure duties often are violated

    Thank you for the May 2002 article, "Residential Real Property Disclosure Duties." My company is the largest home inspection service in North America, and I personally see this law violated on a daily basis. I would like to do my part to change the situation.

    Craig Pech
    AmeriSpec, Green Bay

    Handwritten briefs would be brief

    I received two "briefs" today, one 14 pages and the other 46. While both are within the rules, each could have been half as long, if that. Perhaps we should require briefs to be handwritten. I am sure we would not see any 46-page briefs. The Gettysburg address was handwritten, and that was only 271 words.

    Joseph J. Welcenbach
    Milwaukee


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